Stay in your lane.
Don't look at other people's papers.
Those couple of lines jumped out at me as I read Maria Goff's book " Love Lives Here"
It reminded me that we can't all live the same life. Comparisons hold us back and discourage us like nothing else. We have fears of being different when we are SUPPOSED to be different.
I grew up trying to fit in and not doing a very good job at it. When I was in my teens I thought I'd try a new approach so I started trying to be the opposite of what I was because I thought that is what everyone else wanted me to be. I am chatty and energetic and I tried to be dainty and quiet. I didn't do a very good job of that either. Yikes.
Trying to be someone we're not is exhausting and it doesn't work. We seldom fool anyone or achieve the goal we thought we wanted. What we all really want I think, is to connect with one another and to matter.
As an adult I have had goals and held them up against other people's opinions of those goals as if that was how you decided if they were worth while. I'm disappointed to realize that I wasted so much time worrying about that. Obviously there are times when it is exactly right to get advice from people you respect. I'm afraid though, that I have sometimes been stopped cold because of the response of people around me.
Good grief. Well, I've been over 40 for a while now. And I'm stopping that. God never wanted us to be carbon copies of each other. So, go and be you!! :)
Don't look at other people's papers.
Those couple of lines jumped out at me as I read Maria Goff's book " Love Lives Here"
It reminded me that we can't all live the same life. Comparisons hold us back and discourage us like nothing else. We have fears of being different when we are SUPPOSED to be different.
I grew up trying to fit in and not doing a very good job at it. When I was in my teens I thought I'd try a new approach so I started trying to be the opposite of what I was because I thought that is what everyone else wanted me to be. I am chatty and energetic and I tried to be dainty and quiet. I didn't do a very good job of that either. Yikes.
Trying to be someone we're not is exhausting and it doesn't work. We seldom fool anyone or achieve the goal we thought we wanted. What we all really want I think, is to connect with one another and to matter.
As an adult I have had goals and held them up against other people's opinions of those goals as if that was how you decided if they were worth while. I'm disappointed to realize that I wasted so much time worrying about that. Obviously there are times when it is exactly right to get advice from people you respect. I'm afraid though, that I have sometimes been stopped cold because of the response of people around me.
Good grief. Well, I've been over 40 for a while now. And I'm stopping that. God never wanted us to be carbon copies of each other. So, go and be you!! :)
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